Part of this preparation can be planning wordings for future use. She made a choice to commit to you, based on the experience you gave her. This is about the only type of scenario where the ideas of consent blur slightly. Accomplishing this takes more than agreeing to be honest. It doesn’t matter if you repeatedly tell a sub something, if your actions contradict your words. The most common time people in the BDSM world run into this issue is when it comes to being polyamorous. You will never be great, and you will risk leaving a trail of wrecked, angry, broken subs in your wake. Don’t worry about it, just abandon the plan and default back to honesty instead. If you make it a point to make your interactions with your subs, and potential new subs, you will see a marked improvement in the quality of your relationships and your skills as a Dom. It’s scary, but it’s easier than you think, and it will benefit every single person, regardless of circumstance. This may seem to be at odds with the honesty approach, but they actually join together beautifully. _____________________________________________________________________________
How to Be a Dom: The Honest Approach:
To be a great Dom and have a strong, healthy, relationship it’s imperative to make honesty the focal point of every interaction you have.
